How I describe myself:
I think I'm pretty dependable. I think things through, I stay present, I communicate, I don't run away. I might say to someone "this isn't the relationship I'm looking for" but on the whole I'm curious about people and interested and willing to take a little time to get to know someone. I get the feedback that I appear strong - stronger than I am, perhaps. Sexual compatibility is important to me and I'm very interested in that part of my being at the moment. I've done a lot of self-growth work.
How I like to spend my free time:
I like playing my guitar. I like going to the cinema with my daughter. I like drifting and just not doing too much. I enjoy a walk in the woods. I like lying in my hammock. I like to go to the beach with friends. I like to cuddle on the settee and watch a DVD with a friend. I like camping. I like festivals though not drunkenness. I like 5Rhythms very much. I'm a Buddhist and I have a daily meditation practice.
What my partner should know about me:
If I'm in an attached, romantic relationship, it's quite important that my partner is there for me. I like to see them or speak on the phone every day. Touch, and psychological and physical presence matter to me. In the language of attachment styles, I am a mixture of anxious and secure, without much avoidant. If I find myself with someone avoidant, and we fall into the anxious-avoidant trap, my mental health will suffer. I have had a pattern of this in the past and don't want to do it ever again :-)
In a relationship I am looking for:
I want someone who is going to be there for me. I want to know when I'm going to see them next. I want to know that we're sexually compatible. I want to be heard and understood and supported. I like to nest build and care and protect too. It's important to have down time, to be able to rest and sleep and nap and cuddle together and be soft and gentle. I'm physical, I like to touch. I like to make a soft space.
